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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

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How do I know if I'm in love? I have this boyfriend that I absolutely adore. I always say I love him because saying I like him just doesn't fit at all. It's not strong enough. But, I've been raised to think that I'm too young to know what love is yet. If I'm always too young to know, then how, when I'm older, will I know that I know? And since love is a special kind of feeling that is hard to explain and impossible to teach, then will I ever know?

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    You just know
    When you're in love with a person it's the most amazing feeling. Your heart beats superfast when they're around and you get butterflies in your tummy as your knees get week. There's never a frown on your face when they're around and no matter what they do they can always make you feel good inside and out. Love is the most incredible thing to experience, but it can also make a person blind to other things. When all is said and done love is the only thing a person needs to keep wanting to go on with life. I wish you much luck.
    --Posted by britybug89
    07:33PM EST 06/07/06


    
    
    Don't listen to people who say love is always having that person on your mind, becaue that's actually obsession, which isn't healthy. You'll know you're in love when there is no doubt in your mind. It's not something other people can tell you, it's something you just realize. When you know that there are good things and bad things about the person you love, and you love all their faults as well as their beauties. Love is trust and devotion and being completely sure that's what it is. If you aren't sure than you aren't in love with this guy, which is okay. I don't know how old you are, but I'm sure you have plenty of time to fall in and out of love and infatuation for years. Hope things go well with your boyfriend.
    --Posted by ladyintheradiator
    05:20PM EST 06/07/06


    
    
    You know when you are in love when you no longer question your emotions. I know exactly how you feel since I used to date this guy and was unsure of my feelings for him. I thought I was in love when he broke up with me, and my heart felt as though it had been ripped out. But when I look back at it now, I realize I was not in love since I felt I could not be myself around him. When you are in love, you can be an absolute fool around your partner without caring what he thinks. You feel that life would not exist without him in your life. He is the person that when you are upset, angry or just need someone to talk to are the ones that you want to confide in. They have your complete and utter trust. I know what it is like to love someone as I have been with my boyfrend for just over a year and I love him with all my heart. Whenever you see the person you love you feel like your heart just melts with happiness. You could be in the worst mood ever and yet by simply looking at them and hearing their voice you are cheered you... they are your first thought in the morning and your last thought at night. They are your world... sorry about the essay, but I hoped this helped.
    --Posted by nillabilla
    10:09AM EST 06/07/06


    
    When you are in love you just know...
    It sounds like you are in love. You said "like" isn't a strong enough word for how you feel. What is holding you back is how you were raised, which has nothing to do with how you feel. Although you were raised to think that you are too young, you are still feeling these feelings of love. I think maybe in the older days, they believed you couldn't be in love unless you were older, but it is true that you can be in love at any age.

But there are different levels and different kinds of love. I really don't think what you are experiencing is puppy love, but it is not true love either. With true love you have to be with that person for a lifetime. Your love could grow to that one day, but it is not there yet.
    --Posted by chanelchick16
    03:18AM EST 06/07/06


    
    Don't be afraid to love.
    I kind of have the same problem you have. Don't worry about being too young to love. I used to think that, too, but the relationship I have with my boyfriend is more than I thought it would be. If you feel that you love him don't be afraid to love!
    --Posted by srumpdidiliumpcious
    12:25AM EST 06/07/06



    
    
    When you are in love then you will definitely know! Love is about putting that person before yourself and not thinking only about yourself anymore. It is that feeling of longing for that person in your life! If you know this feeling that I am describing, then age doesn't matter. Age has nothing to do with our emotions or what is inside of us. When you are in love, then you know that it is true or not.
    --Posted by amanz
    11:37PM EST 06/06/06


    
    
    From my experience, when you are in love, you don't question it. The night I realized I was in love was a night when I got off the phone with my boyfriend, and I just started crying from happiness. I realized that if my life stayed like this forever, I would be perfectly happy. If you have felt something like that, I would say it's love.

But you shouldn't feel like you need to define your feelings so quickly. If you are in love, you'll know it, you'll feel it. Just trust yourself, but don't feel like you have to decide if you just like your boyfriend or love him, the important thing is that you two are together and you're both happy with it.
    --Posted by hiimjenny
    11:11PM EST 06/06/06


    
    OMG LOVE!!
    Well love....usually when he touches your hand and you feel special, that is love. If he says "you are beautiful" and all you can do is smile and feel embarrassed. If he smiles at you and you smile and have to turn away! THAT IS LOVE!!!
    --Posted by lyssie542
    10:21PM EST 06/06/06


    
    
    Love isn't planning for your future, planning to get married or thinking of names for your children. It isn't loving every second you two are together. Love is living knowing that right now, you have a person who will listen and talk, even if not everything they say is right. Love is a feeling you get when you need the person like a heroin addict needs her drugs. Love is dreading every moment you are apart, even if when you are together you argue. Love just is.
    --Posted by kimboxxcore
    08:50PM EST 06/06/06


    
    
    Well I think you know that you are in love when all you can do is think about that special person. And all you want to do is be with him. But it is different for everone. And really you just know. It hits you and you realize you are in love. It doesn't matter what age you are because it's up to you, not anyone else.
    --Posted by smile_now_cry_later4
    07:32PM EST 06/06/06

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