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my bf's black--he won't tell people at school about us

does my tomboy style drive him away?

my boyfriend's ex still likes him

she has a crush on me

how do you get over someone?

we like the same guy

she only talks about her boyfriend

i'm white, but i'm dating a black guy

french kissing is gross...

i'm the other woman...

moody boyfriend...

we start dating, i lose interest...

i'm crushing on my gay friend...

my friend's boyfriend likes me...

i'm in love with two people...

if a guy asks me to dance, how do i say no?

i like him but he's a player...

i think my boyfriend's cheating...

mom thinks my homecoming date is ugly...

we're friends with benefits but i love him

i like my friend's boyfriend.

what should i get my bf for xmas?

my bf got another girl pregnant...

he asked another girl to prom.

my boyfriend isn't cute.

is he flirting or making fun of me?

i really like my best friend

my boyfriend wants to read my diary

my boyfriend never calls me

i'm 16 and i've NEVER had a boyfriend

how do you stay friends?

my boyfriend only wants to hang out with his friends...

i am tired of being single...

he really has changed but nobody else sees it...

he says if i loved him i would have sex...

i'm scared he's cheating on me.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i have a hard time talking to guys.

i am in love with my best friend's boyfriend.

my boyfriend doesn't want to talk to me in public.

i don't have the same feelings for him anymore.

should i make a move on my crush?

how do I know if i'm in love?

my friend doesn't know i like her brother.

my boyfriend has a problem with overweight girls.

my boyfriend's family is extremely poor.

my boyfriend is ready to have sex but i'm not.

he's been talking to his ex-girlfriend.

why are guys only interested in non-opinionated girls?

my boyfriend doesn't trust me.

i'm 16 and engaged.

my best friend and my boyfriend can't stand one another.

i like someone two years younger than me.

my boyfriend is really moody and takes his anger out on me.

i think my boyfriend's best friend is trying to break us up.

how can i stop being unfaithful and stick with one guy?

i'm a christian but my boyfriend doesn't even believe in god.

what are the pros and cons of waiting to have sex?

how do i gain back my boyfriend's trust?

i am in love with my brother's best friend.

i like this guy, but he's four years older than me and lives 600 miles away.

my boyfriend's going to college and i'm worried about our relationship.

i really like this guy but he has a baby.

my boyfriend tells his best friend EVERYTHING about our relationship.

my boyfriend never wants to hang out with just me.

my boyfriend's best friend is a girl. they spend a lot of time together and i hate it.

i'm dating this guy that everyone says has an STD. how can i be sure that he's clean?

my crush only sees me as a little kid. how can i get him to notice me?

my boyfriend cheated on me and i can't get over it.

i don't have feelings for my boyfriend. should i end the relationship?

i don't believe in premarital sex but the guys i like don't share the same beliefs. what should i do?

my boyfriend gets mad at me when i talk or hang out with my guy friends. what should i do?

my boyfriend doesn't do anything special for me. i just want to feel more love...

i love my boyfriend, but i don't know how to tell him. should i wait for him to say it first?

my boyfriend is going to his ex-girlfriend's birthday party. i'm afraid they'll make a drunken mistake.

the butterflies i used to get around my boyfriend have gone away. is this a bad sign?

how do i break up with my boyfriend without hurting him?

my boyfriend is moving way too slow. how can i speed things up?

my boyfriend refuses to meet my parents and now my family dislikes him.

my boyfriend said if i want him to remember me i should have sex with him.

my boyfriend has been mean to me ever since his grandfather died.

i want my girlfriend to tell her parents she's gay.

my boyfriend's mom wants me to go on birth control, but i don't think i want to.

my boyfriend wants to take a break because i don't believe in god.


Friends with benefits. Good idea or bad idea when you're in love with him but he doesn't feel the same way? Should I just take anything from him I can get?

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    But.
    True love has been killed by unspoken words.
    --Posted by xxtearjunkiexx
    10:11PM EST 10/26/04


    
    Don't tell him unless he's single.
    If you tell him and he has a girlfriend, he might be more inclined to stay with her because he might feel bad for cheating on her. Believe me, I'm in the same exact situation.
    --Posted by missy_poo2006
    02:14PM EST 10/26/04


    
    Been there.. Done that...
    Okay first off I'm sorry about what your going through. I went through the same thing but never thought of putting it on here. Second of all: You have to tell him. When I went through this I told him I wanted to be more than "friends with benefits" and it turned out he did too. And whether he feels the same or not; you seem uncomfortable with the situation, which is not at all a good thing. If he doesn't want you back, kick him to the curb, and always remember: Everyone's beautiful in their own way, and if the guy you want doesn't want you back, then he doesn't deserve you anyways!!! Hope I helped!!!
    --Posted by chris_baby_girl
    09:40PM EST 10/25/04


    
    
    If he really is a good friend, like a best guyfriend or something, then you might be okay. If he cares about you and you trust him, then full steam ahead. BUT if this a sort of superficial relationship there is great potential for you to get your feelings hurt. It's in a girl's nature, 9 times out of 10, to associate emotions with sexual activities. But guys tend to think with a certain "appendage" way more than they listen to their brain. ... Most people don't think fwb will affect them much, but it could have a major affect on how you view future sexual relationships. Put your "love" for him aside for a moment, that's what I had to do, and take an unbiased look at the relationship you have with him. Imagine you had a friend in the exact same situation, what would you tell them?
    --Posted by onlykrc
    07:29PM EST 10/25/04


    
    Go for it
    Hey you. If you are friends with benefits, think of it this way. What if he friends/benefits with another girl?
    --Posted by speedybabe4189
    11:25PM EST 10/24/04

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